Hi Guys.
It’s been a while. I am glad to be back, and I feel like a better me. In case you weren’t aware I deactivated all my social media channels. I was not myself so taking a break from social media was meant to focus on myself. It was the best decision I have made. I want to live in the moments of life as much as I can, and not through my phone.
Within the last few weeks, I was able to breathe and enjoy things at the moment that I had not done in a very long time. I forgot what It felt like to go on a dinner date and enjoy each other presence at the moment without having a phone 📲 buzzing. I forgot what it felt like to not be on my phone while having a long conversation in the car with a close friend. I forgot what it was like to find something so funny without seeing it on your phone that you almost pee your pants. It’s those small precious moments that I forgot to enjoy.
It taught me self-control, and it made me aware of the people that truly love me and are there for me. Whether it was a message, call, or even making plans to get coffee. I want to thank all these fantastic people who reached out to me personally, especially when you couldn’t find me anywhere on social media that shows a lot. Thank you! I value your time.
Our minds tend to do this when we see a pretty picture on Instagram, or funny videos on Snapchat, or anything you see in general on social media. It doesn’t always mean that the person is happy. And it definitely doesn’t mean that people are living a “perfect” life. It’s a lie; no one’s life is perfect. Everyone is fighting a battle you may not know of, so always be kind.
We live in a digital world where we have to “act” or “portray” that we are fine, but deep down we are not. And it’s okay to talk about this. That’s kind of what happened to me I wasn’t feeling like myself. I felt burned out because I had no balance in my own life. I forgot what it felt like to take care of myself. I am also still dealing with the concept that if someone is meant to be in your life, it’ll be. On top of all these things, I suddenly felt this pressure to have everything aligned in my life. And no one is pressuring; it’s just myself doing this to myself.
We see on social media through our close friends who are either thriving in their careers, moving on with their lives, or whatever they’re doing. And the self-comparison starts to kick in.
When they say, your 20’s are your best years but confusing too. That is no joke. I’ll be 23 in 12 days. Jordan Year! I’m so excited, but anxious at the same time. I know I am in my early 20’s and still have a long way ahead of me. However, it doesn’t mean I have it figured it out. I’m still trying to pursue different avenues in my life. I’m still trying to battle with anxiety. I’m still trying to get my relationship with God on track. I’m still trying to be a better version of myself.
Taking a social media break is needed to re-evaluate:
- Self-control.
- Focus on yourself and what you want to do.
- Your happiness. If you are not happy, change it. You have the power to change your circumstances by making decisions that will either help you grow or drown you.
- The people you surrounded yourself with speaks highly about who you want to be and how you feel too.
- And your mental health.
After re-focusing on myself, I’ve been making a few adjustments. Some people have already started to judge me, criticism and even questioned my choices. I’m beginning to speak up for myself. And I’ve come to realize I can’t please everyone. Not my problem anymore.
When you put yourself out there whether it’s on social media or in person, you have to learn to have thick skin. People will always have something to say about you. So, do what you want, who cares?
If you let people’s judgments or comments define you, you are giving them the power to dictate your life. So, please do what you want in this life, pursue what you dream of doing, if you love someone with all your heart, tell them. Do what makes you happy and learn not to care what others think of you. What only matters is what you feel about yourself. You owe no one an explanation about yourself nor your choices.
I now feel like a better version of me because I’m not listening too much to other people in terms of what they expect me to be. I’m just trusting my judgment.
Thanks for being patient with me during this time of my life. I’m so thankful for every one of you. As the new year is here, may you reach your goals and dreams! I hope to inspire you and influence you most positively.
Love always,
Yessi Bause ❤️
